Why Tell A Lie?

Dearest You,

Season's greeting to you my beautiful DLS reader. Feels like it's been forever since I was last here, believe me when I say that I've missed you just as much as you have missed me. Haven't you?.....Trust you have (my ever eager amebo)..........lol.

Some people find it hard to believe that the stories I post here are true. I've had people ask me 'babe, where do you get these crazy stories from?' and I tell them 'seriously hun, these things happened and I have a face to every story posted on this blog so far'. Why tell a lie? *wink*

                      

Today's DLS is about a lady who told too many lies since we were way back in school (university). It as never been my place to judge anyone's character cause I've got my flaws and I've come to learn to accept people just the way they are. Our personality and flaws make us unique in different ways. So, it's ok to be a beautiful liar if lying is your God ordained talent.......lol (I didn't mean that o, there is nothing beautiful about lying).

This lady happen to be very beautiful and she managed to maintain the status of a child from well to do parents. According to her, her parents and siblings were based in the USA and she was the only one in Nigeria. She went on with this charade of being financially spoilt for so long until we all (colleagues) believed, though we always felt that something wasn't right about her as she never received calls or got any visit from family members or parents especially and she was always on the look out for the next rich boyfriend to roll with. When in a distant relationship, she would tell whoever she was involved with that she schooled in Ghana instead of Cotonou.....hmmmm (some girls can lie sha).

She told these lies for so long that she didn't know where or when not to lie. She practically lied about everything and soon, we didn't know what was or wasn't true about her.

                                            

We were excited for her when she announced that she was getting married to this too much money fine young man based in Malaysia. It wasn't a lie this time as she really did get married but she had told the same lies as usual to the guy and his family. Wow! Her lies got her a man to commit............."men too can fall for lies sha" I thought.

After her first child, she started confiding in some of our colleagues about her live being miserable as her mother-in-law didn't like her. Sooner than expected, she had her second baby and the truth came gushing out. Mother-in-law, had been investing her as she also felt that something was amiss about her. A mother protecting her only son decided to call her daughter-in-law's friend who also happened to be a school mate, to ask about what school they attended and that one couldn't  answer the question as she didn't want to tell a lie about schooling in Ghana instead of Cotonou. "Why will anybody lie about something like that to someone he/she is going to spend the rest of his/her life with? For how long did she think she could keep up the lies? What did  she think will happen when they find out the whole truth?" These are the questions that come to mind when I think about her situation.

                                                         

A friend walked in on her when she was saying to her neighbour in tears that things would have been different if she had a mother (shooo! she no dey USA again?). What if it was her mother-in-law who walked in at that very moment? What if it was her husband? The puzzle I can't seem to find any reasonable answer to is, why did she tell these lies in the first place?

A-List Producer "Licious Crackitt" Shares One Of His Many DLS

Hey You,

Do you know him? Of course,i do. You've listened to some of his beautiful work and loved them but can't put a face to this fine producer. So,here I am bringing him closer to you on a platter of gold......he is one of the many I personally like in the industry. Did I just say like? Hmmm,i meant to say that.......i love licious! Feel free to quote me.....lol

                                

Oluwatobi Ojeniyi known as "Licious Crackitt" as you can see is an A-list music producer presently with numerous award nominations including "Beatz Award Best Hip Hop Producer Of The Year",two nominations from HEADIES for a song he produced "King Kong by Vector" and a nomination from NMVA for "King Kong Remix".

The Pisces born producer said in an interview with DLS that achievement to him is having people listen and appreciate his work,he feels privileged to have been opportuned to make a lot of amazing and great music over time and more is yet to come he said to his expectant growing fans. He went on to describe meeting different talented people and being able to study and communicate with them from a close range as another form of achievement to him. He feels honoured to have worked with some of the most amazing talents in the music industry in Nigeria, the likes of Vector, Ugovinna of projectfame, he co-produced with MI on his MI2 album etc.

                                    

When asked about his major challenges since he joined the industry in 2009 ,this was his response "the structure of the industry is still in the growth process and that is obviously a challenge for a lot of people as a lot of talented Nigerians most times can't afford to push their career at the pace they want but I believe that time has all the answers ". He added that adequate information and attention is still lacking in the business, "there is still a lot to be done to help producers, we will get there....it's only a matter of time" he said.

Licious Crackitt doesn't feel threatened by any man,he declared to DLS that he appreciates every good producer and seizes every opportunity to learn something new from different colleagues in the music business. "I am a product of my environment, original imagination, preferences and a lot more. We all hear and perceive sound/music differently and I believe that we all have uniqueness in all we do" he said.

                                                

This media lover from Oyo State  feels grateful and encouraged from the feedbacks he gets from the general public. He said that it shows Nigerians love good music, appreciate new sounds and are ready to explore. 

As for the award nominations, he looks forward to seeing the best win as King Kong already won the "Best Rap Song" of the year category for COSON. He particularly feels blessed to have been a part of King Kong by Vector and he said that the nominations and feedbacks really makes one want to keep going.

His statement to aspiring producers were "seize every opportunity to learn,don't relent,keep your head up and strive to be the best. Soon, you will get there."

We were able to get one secret out of our frosh producer. Now, guess what his DLS is................"I feel VERY comfortable eating heavy food (swallow) anytime of the day" he said....lol

If you don't know what that means, I can explain. It means that Licious Crackitt can/will eat (for example) EBA in the morning, afternoon and night, everyday (looool). Who does that? Really?!!!....lol

Follow A Lead......'Head Or Heart ' Cont'd

Dear You,

The latter of this story is long overdue, I shall cut to the chase immediately. 

                                  

Maybe shocked would have been the choice of words that best express my emotion but it doesn't do justice to it despite the fact that I had seen it coming in a dream I had a few days before but I chose to ignore it (some of us are gifted with dreams you know).

 I managed to pass my message across to my friend, avoiding the details to avoid hurting her a lot more than I already have and I was careful not to pass the blame on the guy,wanted to take responsibility for everything (things you do for love,yeah?).

When I asked for her opinion about me dating a friend's ex, the aggressive verbal outburst I got was alarming and I immediately knew that something wasn't right. She was my friend and we discussed even more complicated issues in the past but in this case, her response seemed rather direct and prepared, so I thought that she probably knew already. I wanted to leave the conversation at that but she insisted on knowing which of her ex was involved and the only name she could come up with was this guy's when I refused to yield. After I admitted to liking him and wanting to give him a chance, then she gave me her permission so easily I found it hard to believe. 

Feeling confused and terrible, I decided to give our lover a buzz,told him what had happened, trying to make him realise that I was risking a lot for the affection I felt for him and all he did was laugh repeatedly,we had a brief chat afterwards and that was it.

To cut short this awkward story, the love birds were back together the next day and I felt like a dumb fool......lol

                                            

I hope they have their happily ever after,i said to my friend though I wonder if either of them ever cared about me in the way that I did as I was informed by another friend of ours that the lovers had it planned from the onset,i still doubt that. I should have seen it coming, I should have read the signs, anyway.........(singing in westlife's voice). "

Guess that's what life is about, good emotions, bad judgements and ugly turn outs but hey in all of the beautiful chaos, I believe in people standing for what they want whether it turns out right or wrong, whether you follow your heart or head, whether you get hurt or hurt a friend. Life is full of surprises, live the moment,embrace the pain,learn the lessons and regret nothing because no matter what your decisions are or how hard you worry,things always turn out just the way they are designed to be. I hope you work things out with your friend if the friendship means so much to you but if you can't, let it go. True friends will not plan with anyone to toy with your emotions as a test of loyalty especially when you already expressed your vulnerability to them. I'm not saying that you've done right but hey to err is human, to forgive is divine........Look on the bright side of every situation, you deserve better.