Mother Or Murderer

Hello You,
This is me keeping the promise I made to you about a week ago, that is, bringing you the latest gist in my hood. The walls have ears they say and yes! i'm the ear in the walls around me.......lol. Don't be scared, I mean well and remember that I try not to be the judge. I just enjoy sharing these issues with you to get your opinion as well as possibly express mine. I can't wait to share yours too......"What's your dirty little secret?" *wink*

Alright! Let's cut to the chase. A young lady who has been married for only a few years recently became worried about her husband's change of attitude towards her. She said that she was initially not bothered as she thought that the sudden distance between them had been due to the increased work load he was dealing with at work as he told her once she tried to call his attention to the fact that they were growing apart. She never even considered that her husband could be seeing another woman as he had never shown any signs of infidelity (at least not that she knew of). She became more worried when he started keeping late nights constantly and would not come home sometimes. So, she began to think that there certainly was more to whatever was going on with him and whatever it was , she was going to find out.

She decided to speak with her mother about her husband's behaviour. Mother frowned at this behaviour seriously and began to think out loud "what has come over this boy? Or are you not making yourself available to him? Are you depriving him of sex? Could his family be bothering him already about your inability to get pregnant yet? Do you think he's seeing another woman?"
Mother told her not to worry but that she had to try sit him down and directly ask what the real problem was. She did as she was told but her effort was futile as her husband insisted that she had nothing to worry about.

After a few months, her husband stopped coming home and he refused to disclose his whereabouts. He took her calls only to say that he would call her back but didn't, or to say that he was busy. When she visited him at work he behaved nicely and told her that he would come home so they could talk. That night, he didn't go home but he picked her call and they talked, he apologised about his behaviour whispering that she deserved an explanation. Just before the call ended, someone walked in at the other end of the line and for some reason, the voice sounded like her mother's. She asked if that was her mum and the conversation was over. The confused lady immediately called her mother but her mum didn't take her calls.

She called her husband's number again and he picked. This time, he didn't wait for her to ask the questions before he said "Yes! I've been sleeping with your mum. That's what my attitude as been about, can't keep it a secret anymore." What?!!!....... (to be continued).

My Letter To You

Hi Beautiful, 
OMG! You can't begin to imagine how i've missed been here and as much as I want you to get it, I can't seem to find the words that best express how I feel to be able to do this one post. I'm sooo sorry that I made you feel ignored (abandoned for the extremists) and I bet you know that i'm missed you......YES YOU! 
The first month in year 2016 is running out so fast and I haven't even wished you a happy new year (what kind of friend am i?). I know that I can be terrible at these things sometimes (keeping in touch) but hey! you're always on my mind.

Henceforth, I promise to change and keep you looped in on every single dirty little secret going on in and around my life. I look forward to sharing yours too *wink*. Happy New Year love, I miss and love you silly. Have an amazing year with lots of breathe taking secrets......lol. Don't go breaking hearts o, secrets can be healthy if you're keeping the right kinda secrets. I'm the wrong person to define right or wrong where secrets are concerned, i try not to be the judge........#Begoodberealbeyou. 

Mmmwwtchaaah........Now,let's do some catching up, I bet we have a lot to talk about but you first....."what's your Dirty Little Secret? "

Why Tell A Lie?

Dearest You,

Season's greeting to you my beautiful DLS reader. Feels like it's been forever since I was last here, believe me when I say that I've missed you just as much as you have missed me. Haven't you?.....Trust you have (my ever eager amebo)..........lol.

Some people find it hard to believe that the stories I post here are true. I've had people ask me 'babe, where do you get these crazy stories from?' and I tell them 'seriously hun, these things happened and I have a face to every story posted on this blog so far'. Why tell a lie? *wink*

                      

Today's DLS is about a lady who told too many lies since we were way back in school (university). It as never been my place to judge anyone's character cause I've got my flaws and I've come to learn to accept people just the way they are. Our personality and flaws make us unique in different ways. So, it's ok to be a beautiful liar if lying is your God ordained talent.......lol (I didn't mean that o, there is nothing beautiful about lying).

This lady happen to be very beautiful and she managed to maintain the status of a child from well to do parents. According to her, her parents and siblings were based in the USA and she was the only one in Nigeria. She went on with this charade of being financially spoilt for so long until we all (colleagues) believed, though we always felt that something wasn't right about her as she never received calls or got any visit from family members or parents especially and she was always on the look out for the next rich boyfriend to roll with. When in a distant relationship, she would tell whoever she was involved with that she schooled in Ghana instead of Cotonou.....hmmmm (some girls can lie sha).

She told these lies for so long that she didn't know where or when not to lie. She practically lied about everything and soon, we didn't know what was or wasn't true about her.

                                            

We were excited for her when she announced that she was getting married to this too much money fine young man based in Malaysia. It wasn't a lie this time as she really did get married but she had told the same lies as usual to the guy and his family. Wow! Her lies got her a man to commit............."men too can fall for lies sha" I thought.

After her first child, she started confiding in some of our colleagues about her live being miserable as her mother-in-law didn't like her. Sooner than expected, she had her second baby and the truth came gushing out. Mother-in-law, had been investing her as she also felt that something was amiss about her. A mother protecting her only son decided to call her daughter-in-law's friend who also happened to be a school mate, to ask about what school they attended and that one couldn't  answer the question as she didn't want to tell a lie about schooling in Ghana instead of Cotonou. "Why will anybody lie about something like that to someone he/she is going to spend the rest of his/her life with? For how long did she think she could keep up the lies? What did  she think will happen when they find out the whole truth?" These are the questions that come to mind when I think about her situation.

                                                         

A friend walked in on her when she was saying to her neighbour in tears that things would have been different if she had a mother (shooo! she no dey USA again?). What if it was her mother-in-law who walked in at that very moment? What if it was her husband? The puzzle I can't seem to find any reasonable answer to is, why did she tell these lies in the first place?

A-List Producer "Licious Crackitt" Shares One Of His Many DLS

Hey You,

Do you know him? Of course,i do. You've listened to some of his beautiful work and loved them but can't put a face to this fine producer. So,here I am bringing him closer to you on a platter of gold......he is one of the many I personally like in the industry. Did I just say like? Hmmm,i meant to say that.......i love licious! Feel free to quote me.....lol

                                

Oluwatobi Ojeniyi known as "Licious Crackitt" as you can see is an A-list music producer presently with numerous award nominations including "Beatz Award Best Hip Hop Producer Of The Year",two nominations from HEADIES for a song he produced "King Kong by Vector" and a nomination from NMVA for "King Kong Remix".

The Pisces born producer said in an interview with DLS that achievement to him is having people listen and appreciate his work,he feels privileged to have been opportuned to make a lot of amazing and great music over time and more is yet to come he said to his expectant growing fans. He went on to describe meeting different talented people and being able to study and communicate with them from a close range as another form of achievement to him. He feels honoured to have worked with some of the most amazing talents in the music industry in Nigeria, the likes of Vector, Ugovinna of projectfame, he co-produced with MI on his MI2 album etc.

                                    

When asked about his major challenges since he joined the industry in 2009 ,this was his response "the structure of the industry is still in the growth process and that is obviously a challenge for a lot of people as a lot of talented Nigerians most times can't afford to push their career at the pace they want but I believe that time has all the answers ". He added that adequate information and attention is still lacking in the business, "there is still a lot to be done to help producers, we will get there....it's only a matter of time" he said.

Licious Crackitt doesn't feel threatened by any man,he declared to DLS that he appreciates every good producer and seizes every opportunity to learn something new from different colleagues in the music business. "I am a product of my environment, original imagination, preferences and a lot more. We all hear and perceive sound/music differently and I believe that we all have uniqueness in all we do" he said.

                                                

This media lover from Oyo State  feels grateful and encouraged from the feedbacks he gets from the general public. He said that it shows Nigerians love good music, appreciate new sounds and are ready to explore. 

As for the award nominations, he looks forward to seeing the best win as King Kong already won the "Best Rap Song" of the year category for COSON. He particularly feels blessed to have been a part of King Kong by Vector and he said that the nominations and feedbacks really makes one want to keep going.

His statement to aspiring producers were "seize every opportunity to learn,don't relent,keep your head up and strive to be the best. Soon, you will get there."

We were able to get one secret out of our frosh producer. Now, guess what his DLS is................"I feel VERY comfortable eating heavy food (swallow) anytime of the day" he said....lol

If you don't know what that means, I can explain. It means that Licious Crackitt can/will eat (for example) EBA in the morning, afternoon and night, everyday (looool). Who does that? Really?!!!....lol

Follow A Lead......'Head Or Heart ' Cont'd

Dear You,

The latter of this story is long overdue, I shall cut to the chase immediately. 

                                  

Maybe shocked would have been the choice of words that best express my emotion but it doesn't do justice to it despite the fact that I had seen it coming in a dream I had a few days before but I chose to ignore it (some of us are gifted with dreams you know).

 I managed to pass my message across to my friend, avoiding the details to avoid hurting her a lot more than I already have and I was careful not to pass the blame on the guy,wanted to take responsibility for everything (things you do for love,yeah?).

When I asked for her opinion about me dating a friend's ex, the aggressive verbal outburst I got was alarming and I immediately knew that something wasn't right. She was my friend and we discussed even more complicated issues in the past but in this case, her response seemed rather direct and prepared, so I thought that she probably knew already. I wanted to leave the conversation at that but she insisted on knowing which of her ex was involved and the only name she could come up with was this guy's when I refused to yield. After I admitted to liking him and wanting to give him a chance, then she gave me her permission so easily I found it hard to believe. 

Feeling confused and terrible, I decided to give our lover a buzz,told him what had happened, trying to make him realise that I was risking a lot for the affection I felt for him and all he did was laugh repeatedly,we had a brief chat afterwards and that was it.

To cut short this awkward story, the love birds were back together the next day and I felt like a dumb fool......lol

                                            

I hope they have their happily ever after,i said to my friend though I wonder if either of them ever cared about me in the way that I did as I was informed by another friend of ours that the lovers had it planned from the onset,i still doubt that. I should have seen it coming, I should have read the signs, anyway.........(singing in westlife's voice). "

Guess that's what life is about, good emotions, bad judgements and ugly turn outs but hey in all of the beautiful chaos, I believe in people standing for what they want whether it turns out right or wrong, whether you follow your heart or head, whether you get hurt or hurt a friend. Life is full of surprises, live the moment,embrace the pain,learn the lessons and regret nothing because no matter what your decisions are or how hard you worry,things always turn out just the way they are designed to be. I hope you work things out with your friend if the friendship means so much to you but if you can't, let it go. True friends will not plan with anyone to toy with your emotions as a test of loyalty especially when you already expressed your vulnerability to them. I'm not saying that you've done right but hey to err is human, to forgive is divine........Look on the bright side of every situation, you deserve better. 

Follow A Lead......'Head Or Heart'

Beautiful People,

Severally, i've heard people say "use your head" and I wonder "why not use your heart?" or "follow your heart", still I think "why not follow your head?". If you're meant to use your head,are you not automatically suppose to follow it's lead and vice versa. 

When it comes to my everyday functional life, oh! My head is there but when it comes to my emotional affairs, thanks to the heart,i'm a fool for love.......lol

Today's secret is about the crazies that unfold when you follow your heart or choose not to use your head. (Enjoy)

                                                   

                                                                            OR

                                                            

"God bless the day I met my long time friend, one of my closest actually, we practically grew up together from our teenage days,been through thick and thin together (things u don't even wanna know) and we never had an issue we couldn't or didn't resolve come what may for many years or so it was until now (still hoping we can work this one out).

We were sisters from different parents and I love her as much if not more (lol,no homo). "What then is the problem? " you're probably wondering now. Don't be in a hurry friend ,i'm almost there......

                                         

Recently, she introduced me to a man she had been dating for over a month and I immediately liked him (for her) or so I thought initially. This cool dude reminded me of a crazy crush I once had and I told my friend as soon as I had that figured out. He went through the friend's first time screening and he more than passed in "my right kind of guy book",so, the admiration increased. We got really talking and I felt like we connected on a deeper level than we would like to admit and quickly afterwards, we kept our distance and focused on why he was here in the first place (his relationship with my friend) .

This damn heart always finds a way to bring two lusty hearts together, doesn't it?.....*sigh*

Soon,we got talking again and this time we couldn't pretend there wasn't some undercurrent running deep beneath the cool,calm and collected surface. We briefly addressed it then let go considering the fact that we were "that which should not happen". Who created the rules anyway?

We kept the communication line......(shikena) and the rest is history (you can chat me up for the history....lol, amebo!) and whatever I felt for him only got stronger and deeper but I never let it affect my sense of judgement when it came to advising my friend about her relationship as she constantly sort my opinion. 

                                        

Unfortunately, the things she complained about were the things that intrigued me about him (I never discussed their negatives with either of them separately, I honestly tried to make them work), so when she said that she was tired of his attitude and claimed that they had broken up,I asked her over and over what she wanted or if she wanted him back but she was tired and confused was all she said,i also felt that she was doing alright since she moved on pretty fine with the distractions or so she made me believe (a lot was going on to make me believe that she wasn't so into this guy in the 1st place,besides, girls talk about these things you know). So I thought to myself, not with the motive to hurt my friend "maybe we can finally give us a chance",we liked eachother and he also complained about them not understanding themselves the way that we do (I happened to understand them both considerably well).

So,i asked him like i've done a few times before in the heat of the moment, "what if I can talk to my friend about us? What if she can understand how I feel about you and decides that we can date?" "Oh! You really think that can happen? We will both be tagged bad,monsters etc. You will loose your friendship and I don't want to be responsible for that" he said.

I repeatedly battled with telling my friend from the onset despite the constant reassurance I gave myself that I could tell her anything and she would understand or that we will figure it out but oh mehn! I didn't want to loose my friend neither was I ready to let go of my new found affection without knowing that I tried to make it last a little while longer (hmmm).

Suddenly, my honourable friend's now ex boyfriend advised me to tell my friend about us because I at least owe her that and I wondered why the drastic change of opinion. I went on with the flow since i'll rather tell her anyway than have her find out any other way. So,i buzzed her a few days later after consulting the opinion of a few and the surprise I got wasn't just her reaction to the news but what happened next............

                                                                                                                                                            (To Be Continued) 

Help! I'm Married To A Nympho'

Hi You, 
Why a lot of people do not like issues like this discussed or addressed still baffle me. For crying out loud,what's the big deal? Of course, it's a big deal because it is an abnormality but how we stigmatise or refer to a nymphomaniac mostly with disgust is both sickening and appalling. Don't mean to be judgmental but I personally think a man should be grateful if he's married to a nymphomaniac, it just means that he'll get to have so much sex that cheating will become impossible for him. Lol.............dude,don't you agree with me? I bet some of you share my opinion (there is a big smile on my face right now).
You already know what "Nymphomania " is as an efiwe that you are, but for the sake of the few who have probably never heard the word,let me help you with at least a dictionary meaning. Nymphomania refers to uncontrollable or abnormally strong sexual desire in a woman. It can also be called hypersexuality or compulsive sexual behavior. I'm not here to lecture you o so,pls contact google for more information.*wink*

Today's DLS is about a man who got married to this beautiful young woman and after a few years together, he met another woman whom he claimed to have fallen in love with and when asked why he has decided to break his marriage vows, his excuse was that he was tired of being with his wife who is a Nympho. *eyesrolling*
How is that even an excuse to cheat? Isn't that a reason for him to be satisfied? So I thought out loud as I was given the gist.
The lady he was asking out,happened to know his wife who she said is as beautiful has ever even after four kids and has no past history of waywardness since she had known her, therefore she found the news hard to believe and insisted that she would have nothing to do with him especially since she was in a committed relationship and was a sexually active person herself though not abnormally. 

This is the 3rd time i've heard men make excuses about their spouse being a nympho to either dump them or cheat on them. I've even heard about a young lady that was gang raped by a group of friends in my University days in the name of wanting to know her limit as she was tagged 'Nympho'.
Nymphomania is not an incurable disorder. So, men should please stop making unreasonable excuses to be irresponsible. The only help you need is to help your spouse. Sorry if it looks like i'm taking sides today, I know I can sometimes appear to be a feminist to the core. Don't get me wrong,i feel your pain if your cap hurts and it's understandable that we get scared sometimes and want to run away but how will you feel if you were to be in her shoes. I can't ask you not to run or find an escape route, all i'm saying is reconsider helping the Nympho you're married to.

A lot of men don't even know how to make love to a woman and when they can't satisfy one,they fail to acknowledge the fact that they are incapable. Guess I should take this opportunity to inform you that women are different and require different/various skills to meet their individual needs. Maybe you aren't doing the right thing yet,find out what will work for your spouse sexual needs and get it done. Not all tagged nymphos are actually having a disorder.

Married To A PIMP

Hi You,
Here is today's DLS.........

"Growing up at some point during my early childhood in a ghetto where I felt displaced,out shinning almost every other kid, watching and listening to teenagers and adults around me act and speak like "American wannabes",it took me yester' years to know what the word PIMP really meant. Back then for me,it was a fancy word that meant enhancing something or someone's outlook. I heard people say things like "let me pimp you", "i'm going to pimp my car" etc and to crown my non dictionary definition, a "Pimp My Ride Show " surfaced on TV on the long run, so I embraced my assumed definition (slang) of the word until my curiosity drove me to check for the dictionary meaning ..........i bet you're expecting me to help you with a definition right now,sorry to disappoint you dear,please use your dictionary..........*tongue out* lol

That said, I met my husband a few years ago and I knew him to have a lot of female friends. Some he occasionally slept with and a few he had as his regular babes. I happened to be one of his regulars but knew there were others just has they knew I existed. Let the challenge begin or so I saw it as we all played the game of winning position number one whether consciously or uncousiously. (lol)

Soon,i was number one and it almost felt like I won a lottery not knowing that I had just lost a few of my precious years to hell itself. You know how we ignorantly fight for what we do not need all in the name of having the last laugh? That was my case. I wanted the impossible, wanted a mirage for reality, told myself the devil was just a fallen angel and constantly reminded myself that the angel in him should be my focus, so hell became my heaven and it took me years to finally come to terms with what he really was no matter how hard I tried not to see.........he was a man who had no integrity and will do almost anything for money, maybe pimp his spouse if he thinks she would dance to the tune amongst other things, but we were already married before it finally dawned on me.
Once as his girlfriend, I remember been pimped to a man who sent some money and I wouldn't have known if the man had not requested to speak with me via phone call, I played along wanting to please my man until he collected the money and I didn't worry about it since I didn't have to see the man and it was a one time thing that wasn't a part of him he assured me, but soon I found out he had done the same with some of his previous girlfriends. (we sometimes do these stupid things in the name of love) *eyesrolling*

I started having issues with him majorly when he couldn't keep his whores from the home front,he kept too many photos of different girls,some he chatted with till late  nights and I wondered if he was sleeping with them and it came both as a relief and a shock when he told me he pimps them. I was relieved that the worst of my fears had not come through but shocked that he would sell out these gorgeous ladies to men for short term sex while he gets his percentage. It was then I thought about his history with ex girlfriends and I knew for sure that this man will not hesitate to pimp me 
should things ever get very financially ugly and that was his last resort. A man who can advertise you as a sex object to another man for money is as good as a man who uses women for money rituals. We fell apart eventually as a lot of things had been faulty from the onset of the relationship but one kind of man that will never have my attention again is the PIMP."

Prostitution Pays

Dearest You,
I can't thank you enough for reading our posts. Today's DLS is a story I consider a must read for wives (this may help you consider shagging your hubby like you should) and our 60seconds men whose spouses are managing but will brag among friends about been great in bed. A perfect excuse to pay someone for sex because their wives can't handle their stamina..........our excuses are sometimes amazing (lol).
I am not a judge of human character and won't start now but for every job,there is a need to be met. To erase a profession, the need for that job will have to be erased. 
Pls read on..............

“Hmm”,“Ahh!”. These were the sounds of pleasure made in tandem with the rhythmic creaking of the bed springs. With a shudder and a groan, the male on top of me achieved orgasm. He collapses on me,breathing heavily into my ear. He then rolls off me, body glistening with sweat. He grins at me,revealing straight,brown stained tobacco teeth. He gives my nipple one last pinch and proceeds to put on his clothes all the time keeping up a steady chatter of how good and sweet I was and how he’s going to return at a later date. As he finishes putting on his shoes, he opens his wallet and presses some bills into my palm and then walks out. I glance at the clock. There is still time for two or three more customers. I rise from the bed to dispose of the condom used, clean my body off with a wet towel (no time for a bath and moreover, men like the scent of sex), put on a short, sexy gown with nothing underneath, reapply my makeup and then, out I go. This is my life. Welcome to the world of a Commercial Sex Worker a.k.a Prostitute, Harlot, Slut, Ashewo, Okpo etc.

It wasn’t always this way. I was raised in a comfortable household in an upper middle class neighbourhood. While growing up, I’ve always held the attention of men folk starting from junior secondary. I have incredible hips which are a perfect platform for the perfect bum to be developed, perky breasts, a smooth flawless skin that has never seen a pimple and a face that wouldn’t make the cover of Vogue but it’s refreshingly appealing to men. My sojourn into the body hawking business started when I was at a “joint” with my erstwhile boyfriend and I arose to get to the bathroom. As I did, I felt the eye of every male on me and suddenly, there was this really intense feeling of power. Call it an epiphany and you wouldn’t be far from the truth. Anyway, as I got outside, I was accosted by a guy who simply said “how much?” in a coarse voice. I instantly felt disgust but incredibly I was really turned on. I really love sex and my boyfriend wasn’t giving me plenty of it. Then I thought, “why not?” Why not get paid for doing something you actually enjoy doing? Sounds familiar, right? I told him #3,000 and he took me to the toilet I was headed towards. That marked the beginning.

Over the years, I’ve met a lot of people; guys who brag a lot and are dead in bed, average, good ones, downright ugly, incredibly handsome, tall, short, fat , thin, kinky, all sorts. I’ve been with really respected men in the society,men you will find hard to believe patronise me and have received so many offers from men. Some are borderline stupid in my opinion (like telling me you want to marry me), some reasonable but I value my independence too much to be stuck with one bloke.

For me, it’s primarily about the power I feel from seeing men fumble over themselves just for me. I actually pity the married dudes who work their socks off and return home to stiff-necked boring wives who know next to nothing about pleasing a man. Some do have some knowledge but refrain from giving their all. All they are interested in is obtaining the latest clothing and jewelry which are being paid for by the hussy’s cash. Only when they get these things do they put on a show for about two days (if the guy gets lucky). Yet, these women open their mouths to call us harlots! I have clients who just stay and talk with me for about two-thirds of the time paid for (usually marital problems, though). As far as I see it, these women should commend us for taking the stress off their men’s necks. After all, we are providing a service they cannot perform. Anyway, I’ve got no regrets and if I should reincarnate, I’ll still come back this way. It’s just too much fun! See ya.


Story by Anuoluwapo O.

WALE by Bishi

"BISHI" a fast rising star with an extraordinary talent and passion for music is out with a new single titled "WALE" produced by one of the best music producers "Lahlah". I particularly love this track among many others i've been privileged to listen to. I love good music,so you can trust me when I tell you this is one. When asked by DLS "what has been the secret to his creativity?" Bishi said his secret is YOU........"Everyday People". Sounds like we have something in common, YOU inspire us.
Please download "WALE" on the link below

http://dlswithmoi.blogspot.com /music-ayo-bishi-wale-prod-by-lahlah-iam_bishi


Download now and thank me later. We will love to have your comments. Thanks for reading DLS,no Dirty Little Secrets without you.
 Ff  @iam_bishi   @dlswithmoi

Ever Been To A Tea Party?

Dear Reader, 
Ever been to a tea party? Hey,be sure we have the same kind of party in mind before you give me your big YES!............I as an individual cannot remember ever been invited to a tea party,maybe we don't fancy such in this part of the world..........you know how we love to party with the loud music and booze......naija things *wink* (lol,i love my country). In fact, if you think that you've got some talent in alcohol consumption and you happen to come from any other part of the world not Nigeria, ......hmmm! All I can say is,don't blow your trumpet until you have seen our brothers here drink. Trust me,we have some crazy boozers in the land and I have been fortunate to meet some of them in my life time. These guys drink round the clock and it got to a point that I had to conclude that highness has been erased from their dictionary, I can only pray for their liver. 

Back to the secret of the day,I ordinarily thought the term "Tea Party" meant sitting in a living room with friends, listening to soft music, having chit-chats and of course eating biscuits and tea. Little did I know that tea partying could also mean...........(lol,find out in the paragraphs to come as I share a friend's tea party experience with you).

"As a young married man who travelled a lot, i've come to realise that the things you think you understand may have a totally different meaning when you find yourself in a new environment. I enjoy travelling, i'm eager to meet and work with new people as well as explore every opportunity that presents itself (try not to let your imagination run wild on this one). So,when I had to relocate to Ivory Coast for a while to work,it was an experience I welcomed. It was for only a weeks so I didn't travel with my family. 
After my first week, I had already fit into the system. I had a good rapport with my colleagues and as a man with good looks,soon the ladies were on my case. A few weeks later,i already found a friend in a colleague. We talked about a lot of things aside work,she talked about her husband a lot and she once mentioned that she told her husband about me. We were just friends so I didn't think her husband will have a problem with it, which he didn't.
  
                                                     
One day,as we leave the office she said "i'll like to invite you for a tea party at my house" and I immediately said "sure" thinking that it will mean sitting with other colleagues, unwinding and drinking tea. It was a week day and the tea party was suppose to happen over the weekend. Since I had never been to one,i decided to ask a male colleague about it. The male colleague first gave me a surprised look then he began to laugh,then he said "go for it". I asked for what the occasion will look like so i'm appropriately dressed and that was when he realised that I didn't know about what I was invited for. He explained to me that tea partying in their environment meant having sex with a person with his or her spouse present. I was shocked,i couldn't believe it,i left him speechless and went back to my lady friend to confirm. She thought I already knew when she invited me, she told me not to worry that herself and her husband had an understanding. She went further to explain that she would rather tea party than cheat on him and that he would rather do the same. When she asked if i'ld still like to come,i said YES . *smile*

On that faithful day,when I arrived at her house,i could barely breathe. I was still hoping that this was some kind of joke but my dream wasn't coming through as I arrived at the apartment. The lady walked up to me,gave me a hug and introduced me to her husband. I summoned courage to appear unshaken but my heart was racing in my chest. She told me to proceed upstairs and undress while she poured me a drink. When she arrived with her husband, she undressed and helped undress me. Her husband sat there and watched,i couldn't get an erection no matter how hard I tried. She was a beautiful woman and i've sometimes thought about this moment with her but I couldn't stop the crazy thoughts popping into my head as I tried having sex with her......some of the thoughts I had were "what if he hits my head with something and cuts off my little man?" "what if this was a set up and I was going to be sued?" 

To cut the long story short,i had sex with this woman with her husband present. It didn't turn out bad like I feared but mehn.....it's not a risk i'm ever willing to take again. Her husband shook my hand when we were done and said thank you for screwing my wife. (lol,those were not his exact words)"

My First Sex Offer

 Dear You,
Today's story made me smile a lot and i hope it has the same effect on you. Soon, you will be able to put a face to the writers of these beautiful stories but till then, keep reading our stories and leave your comments. We look forward to sharing your Dirty Little Secrets. Please enjoy..........

"I almost couldn't believe this when it happened to me, I now know that life is more than how I see it. Some people can be so extreme in their approach which even makes their proposal 'yuckier' than it already is. Oya let me skip the intro and go straight to the story because I can already hear your thoughts "ehn ,what exactly happened?" lol.
Now, if you know me to some extent, you'd know I schooled in the Republic of Benin, Cotonou precisely. Cotonou is known for their very cheap stuff, even I get clothes as cheap as 100 naira (shh, tell no one). My mom knew this and decided to come and take advantage of that quality so she came on that fateful day.
I was being lectured when I got her call so I had to excuse myself from the class to receive her call. I called my bestfriend to go meet her since she wasn't having any class at the time and would probably get there before me as I didn't want to delay my mom because she was going to leave as soon as she was done shopping. I left school for the market. On getting there, she was done buying because she had a customer and I was like "ahn ahn sharp sharp", so she concluded her deals and left.

Bestie was pregnant at the time and had been craving some very funny things. She said she wanted peppersoup that morning, I mean, who sells or eats peppersoup in the morning. I was free at the time because my next class was by 3 and it was about 11 then so I said no wahala, let's peppersoup hunt. We first went somewhere to share a plate of eba (I like food but bestie eats as if her life depended on it and it got worse when she was pregnant). When we were eating, one guy approached us, he was one of the guys that sold to my mom so we were cool.  Bestie asked if he knew anywhere we could get peppersoup from and he said he would take us there. She said "no, if you can't describe it, then leave" (I'm very mean but she's meaner). We finished our food then left to continue our hunt but this guy didn't leave us alone, he kept following us. He said he would take us there and even pay, we said "we don't need you to pay, (too much money *pops collar*) we can pay for ourselves, you can go back now because you've been far too kind".
This guy remained unflinched as if we weren't saying anything at all. He persisted,so she gave up and said "okay, you can take us there but we don't need you to pay", she turned to me and asked "abi?" I said "yes, he should take us there". So we took bikes and off we went. Lest I forget, Besti's pregnancy wasn't obvious at the time. We got there and he paid the bikes (the place was far ehn). We entered the almost-empty place and sat, he spoke igbo language to the attendant in a way that made us believe he was asking for the peppersoup so we remained calm and glanced at each other regularly, I mean Besti and I.
After a while, we realized he didn't even ask the attendant for anything, they was probably just exchanged pleasantries. We decided to ask the attendant ourselves, and we were told that there was no peppersoup as expected because it's hard to find that in the morning. This guy whose number i later saved as 'dumb dude'bought us a drink but kept a straight face all through, no smiles at all, not even a fake one. We all started talking and all, he kept a straight face still. I was sitting across him while Besti was sitting by the right side of the table so she was by my side. He told us how he liked both of us especially me.
All of a sudden, I just felt his hand under the table putting something into my hand, it was money. I quickly brought it up to the top of the table for the whole world to see,i asked him "what's this for?", he then said "I want you girls to make me happy", I and my friend exchanged glances, it was 40 thousand cfa equivalent to errr say 13 thousand naira at the time. I did the talking again and asked "how do you want us to make you happy?", he replied "you know how to make a man happy". Being a very straightforward person, I asked "you want us to sleep with you?", he said "I didn't say that but I'm sure you know how to make a man happy". I thought for some seconds and said "you want us to sleep with each other while you watch?". I couldn't possibly think of any other way two girls can make a strange guy happy without sex especially when he already paid upfront for whatever it is that would make him happy. He replied "God forbid!", I said "I'm wondering how, so I thought you might want a lesbian thingy. Tell us how you want us to make you happy?"

Besti finally finished with whatever she was thinking and without letting the dumb dude tell us what he really meant, she blurted out "what kind of rubbish is that? We don't sleep with people for money" He responded immediately "So? Other girls do it all the time, what's there? If you people think the money is too small, I can add to it." I thought to myself "this guy is really serious" so I smiled and said "sorry, you're talking to the wrong people, we don't do stuffs like this." I gave him his money but he refused, in my mind I was already thinking about how many clothes and shoes I can buy with twenty thousand cfa just in case he generously leaves his money.
Besti said "we don't want", he replied "you girls need someone to take care of you", I said "we don't need you to do that, we're fine already." I gave him the money and this time he collected it, my guy didn't waste time at all, guess he's not so dumb when it comes to money as an igbo guy that he is (no offense oo igbo people but you know it's the truth).
While all this went on, my friend and I shared another plate of foofoo (no time) in place of the peppersoup we couldn't get. He paid the bills (reluctantly though) in a way that showed he felt cheated because apparently he wasted his money but we exchanged numbers which is why I could save his number as 'dumb dude'. We got on bike and left the place but a part of me still wish he didn't take back the money,didn't tell that side of the story always you know *wink. This happened in the month of December, 2013 and I have had many more experiences after this but this was the first direct and major one I had.

Story by ...... Anuoluwapo O.

Dumped, Afraid But Alive And Grateful (Cont'd)

Hallo,
Still in the spirit of independence, I salute you all and wish you a Happy 55th Independence . I'm proudly Nigerian ........"We Are Nigeria " (saying that with a big smile on my pretty face).
I hope you enjoyed reading our last story and to "you" our amazing readers who have been patiently awaiting the conclusion of our last post,here it is.......
"Of course like every other father who finds himself in this situation, the bride's father was demoralised and speechless,he had no response to the woman at the other end of the line,all he could do was take a seat and stare into the nothingness that appeared in front of him and he didn't even realise he had been numb until his wife asked what the matter was.........hmmm (I sigh).The lady's mother as you can expect was dramatic and wailing in no time and right there and then,the lady in question walked in. Her father tried to comport himself,sit her down and relay the phone call to her but the mother made it almost impossible has she was screaming it all out at the top of her voice. The lady could not understand what was going on or was it that she didn't want to believe it? She gave her parents the little explanation she could come up with which was that everything they had been told via the phone call was a terrible lie.
The lady took the next available flight to Port-Harcourt to be sure that the call was not some kind of mistake has the groom had already stopped taking her calls at the time. When she got to PH,she confronted the man's parents about the call and demanded for an explanation. She got more than just a shock of her life when her supposed mother in-law told her to her face that whatever she heard was the truth and that their son should confirm that they were not telling lies. At this point,he walked into the living room where they were all seated and he said directly to the lady "You are a fool. How could you have thought that I really wanted to marry you? Do you really think I love you?". He affirmed that what his mother told her father over the phone was what he had told his parents since he introduced her to them and that she meant nothing more than that (his gate pass to Canada) to him.
This lady in tears began to explain to the only person who was willing to listen (his father) that she had no business arrangements with their son and that in sincerity, she told him about relocating to Canada after their wedding as an option because she has an uncle in Canada (a Canadian citizen) who sends his siblings an invitation to visit him in Canada usually as his wedding gift to the newly weds and as a way to welcome the spouse into their family. 
Anyway, she returned to Lagos and moved on with her life but do you really think she will let herself love or trust again? How can a man or any human at that be this mean and callous? 
Her father had to send messages to invited guest informing them that the wedding had been postponed until further notice and had to go through the humiliation of going to the venue on the supposed wedding day to apologise to the people that still came because they did not get the information. 
What do you think this young man (the user) deserves? 

Dumped, Afraid But Alive and Grateful

Dear You, 
It's been a while since i've been here, i'm so sorry i've had to be away but if you must know............I do very really absolutely immensely MISS YOU  and I can't wait to share this traumatising story with you. Forgive my choice of words if vulgar (ordinarily not my style) at some point in this story to come but I take this story quite personal and will not hesitate to be biased if I feel the need to be.....*big smile*
"Five years ago, a working class 25year old lady based in Lagos, Nigeria met this young man who claimed to have been in the United Kingdom for years but was deported because he didn't meet the requirements to stay in the UK. It was love at first sight and she was soon head over hills in love with him as she thought him honest and down to earth........exactly her kind of man complimented with his good looks. 
According to her,they had met on a visit of his to Lagos and he appeared smitten by her and the relationship went on a smooth sail over the years as the lady was ready to give all it takes to make her story a "forever happily ever after". She constantly took trips to visit him at Port-Harcourt where he resides with his parents,she supported him financially as she is well to do and hails from a wealthy family,she went the extra miles and remained faithful to her man over the years .
After four years together, the love birds decided to take the relationship a step further by getting married. The man was introduced to the lady's family officially but he came with friends instead of parents as tradition expects,the lady and her man decided to go to the registry for a court wedding after the introduction and the ceremonial wedding date was fixed for last month (sometime in August 2015).
A week to the fixed wedding date (invitation cards shared, aso ebi bought, hall,accommodation and refreshments paid for and wedding gown bought), a number called the bride's father and it was the  groom's mother who was claimed to have been out of the country with her husband at the time of the introduction and court wedding . The groom's mother called to inform the bride's family that "they "(including their son) will not be attending any wedding as the marriage between their son and daughter was supposed to be just an arrangement needed by the groom for his new travelling plans and not love based,she claimed that the lady in question had been paid to get married to him and that their relationship was nothing more than a facade created for them to build a rapport in preparation for the interview done at the Canadian Embassy when applying for a visa. Can you beat that?.............

I most likely would have fainted at this point if I was the bride's father taking this call. What will be your reaction???...........(to be continued) 

Man Marries Secretly After 8years of Marriage

Hello,
Can you take this? Can you do this? These are the words that come to mind as today's story was shared with me. 
A friend of mine once shared with me a believe that "a single person (spouse) cannot meet the emotional needs of an individual  which is why he or she will always find a way to fill the vacuum" and I totally agree with him but then, it leaves me wondering "God must know this. So,why did he create man and gave him only a woman and vice versa? ".
The issue of infidelity in marriage has grown at an alarming rate over time to a point that I find even the proposed solutions almost impossible as most advisors are very guilty......How do I know? Well,i don't (na everybody be thief ,na who dem catch be the barawo). LOL
Overcoming temptation when you're unhappy or unsatisfied and needy takes more than discipline, it takes God. I'm not trying to preach or be religious but i've come to realise that only God can really satisfy us in a way no man can. Only he can fill our emptiness in a way that we won't feel the need for anyone else. Even I am far from being connected with God on that level but yes we can get there and we will by God's grace.
Therefore, I will not pass judgement on my friend's husband who went ahead to have a big traditional wedding  with another lady after he has been married to my friend for 8years and has been blessed with 2 beautiful daughters. This very respectable man at work and church is a manager in one of the top beverage producing companies in Nigeria and is soon to be ordained a pastor at his church. His wife who is very heart broken at the moment and doesn't know what to do said her husband has repeatedly lied about having an affair with this woman whose bride price he just went to pay. 
She wouldn't even have found out if one of her inlaws who is a friend facebook hadn't posted pictures of the event. She believed that her husband had travelled for a business appointment for the week when she saw the pictures. Human beings can be very wicked (yes I know),are we allowed to be selfish? (sometimes,YES). Call me weirdo and I won't disagree,as much as I feel bad for my friend, I do not know the man's excuses for his actions. He sure hasn't done the right thing but these things happen and who are we to judge. I don't know what you'll advise but I think she should stay married,focus on raising her children and still be the wife she vowed to be. As long has he still takes responsibility for his children, she can only make smart choices henceforth and pray for her family provided there

is still love in her heart for him and he for her. If I were in her shoes, I will probably take option 2..........taking my kids and leaving him to enjoy his new marriage else I might just poison him. (Remember that we grief and react differently, so "pls don't judge me"(singing in Chris Brown's voice) lol).